Monday, August 17, 2009

Life goes on.

Its hard to believe but five years ago today my grandfather, aka Pepa, passed away to esophageal cancer. It basically went from diagnosis to almost recovery to passing away in six short months.

I can still remember many things about him. The way he smelled. The way he felt. The way he smiled. Even the way he talked. Some of my favorite memories of him include him painting my sister's and I's toenails while we sat on his lap. Or jumping on the trampoline while he sang "Row, row, row your boat." (His own rendition of course.) Or the time I had the chicken pox and stayed at the house with him and Mema. Or the chocolate long johns that he always brought to me and sis when we stayed the night. Or the baby chicks in the sun room. Or his dogs, Annie and Festus, which I loved as my own. Or the cherry tree he gave me to plant in the garden. Or the pride he instilled in me for Oklahoma 4-H program. Just to name a few. :)

But even those memories aren't good enough sometimes. I still feel like I would give anything to have one more day with him or the chance to say goodbye.

I was only 16 years old when my Pepa passed away. Its hard to imagine how different my life would be if he was still with us. He would have been at my high school graduation. He would get to see me walk across that stage in Gallagher-Iba Arena...knowing I was carrying on his cowboy tradition. He would have been at my sister's wedding. I would be able to dance with him at mine. I know I shouldn't get caught up in the "what might have been's" but its hard not to on days like today.

But life must go on. And here we are five years later, still left wondering how it even happened. Loving and missing you Pepa.

Sunday, August 16, 2009

Sometimes your dreams just don't work out...

You know when your life starts spinning out of control and you don't know what to do to stop it. That seems to be me right now.

I feel like I'm losing so much ground with my friends. I don't know what to do about it or how to fix it and I can't seem to tell them how I really feel. Isn't this the point in my life where I am supposed to have my friends that I can lean on forever?

Maybe I'm just now figuring out who I really am and I don't fit in where I used to.

Maybe I just take everything way too personal.

Either way, I need to figure this out and fix it...and soon.

Thursday, August 6, 2009

Just a restless girl, on a restless night.

I'm beginning to think that I am restless with life right now. Usually, I hate and despise change. I would even say that I go out of my way to avoid it. But lately, I have been seeking out change...looking for deliberate things in my life that I can shake up just to see what happens.

This past week I have considered another new haircut, brown highlights, dyeing my hair black, changing the spelling of my name, colored contacts, wearing only mascara, wearing heels everyday, changing jobs, and switching majors...again.

Now, I realize those are all very small changes to some people, but for me, the change-hater, these are life altering decisions.

I'm not sure why I have the sudden urge to change everything in my life that I possibly can right now. I think part of it is because I have decided to be who I want to be without worrying if I offend certain people.

So hopefully, I can get some of this restlessness out of my system before too long...or it is going to be a long semester.

kmb: wild at heart.